Rescheduled Post – Originally posted on April 24th, 2018.
Midnight strikes, and that’s when all good ideas are generated, right? That’s what it is for me, so gonna stop fighting it. My brain refuses to stop. So, blog it is!
Recently, I have been thinking about setbacks. The picture I chose for this post, Sunrise or Sunset? I leave it up you to decide…Pick one for now, will get back to it later. How do people deal with setbacks? Isn’t it so easy to just shove it under the carpet and pretend like it never happened? It sometimes is. BUT.. it depends on what you want the outcome to be right? I see two choices: a) Do you want to accept the setback and consider it your fate? If yes, Ok. No judgement here. OR b) face your setback, understand it and somehow turn it around for the better? 99% of the time, I chose option b. It is exhausting and comforting at the same time.
I recently faced a setback. Without delving too deep into what it was here, I would like you to focus on the process. I like to keep things simple. The setback was surprising (not in a good way) and frustrating. I felt defeated and I wanted to just scream out the words.. “that’s just not FAIR!”, which I did to the ears of my poor husband who listened and I felt comforted. The world isn’t going to be always fair, and the sooner we accept that, better it is for us. Brings me to the first step.
1. LET IT OUT: Let it all out. All the things that are frustrating you. Write a journal or find your faithful friend or a partner who will help you and listen to you. Sometimes people just need someone to listen to them and feel understood. Once you get your release, you will feel better and move on to the next step.
2. ROOT-CAUSE: What now? Two words, Root-cause. Put your realistic and logical hat on! Is it on? – yes? Alright then! Now, think about what caused the setback – What was it? How did it happen? and Why? This is important. Keep asking Why? I’m not sure if you have heard of the 5Whys. It is an actual engineering problem solving method to get to the root-cause of any issue. Really, keep asking why 5 times and write it on a piece of paper. Done? Good! You’ve got your root-cause. Move on to the last step.
3. PLAN OF ACTION: Now that you have got your root-cause, you are more equipped to come up with a solution. Once you figure out root-cause of your issue, you will know what the next steps are. Write some of those steps down. List them out in detailed simple sentences and put a time-frame on it. And you have got yourself a plan. Now, execute it and prove it to yourself, you have got this! Actually, tell yourself that, it helps! Then go Make It Happen!
My dear readers, see how good it feels? You started with this setback which you were trying to deal with. First, you let the setback-venting out of your system and got your release. Now that your mind is clear, you figured out the root-cause, and then you devised a plan for action. That is powerful! You took the situation, turned it around and are working towards a solution in 3 simple — I didn’t say easy;) –steps!
But, don’t you feel better about it now?:) You are in charge of working through your own setbacks!
How do you deal with your setbacks? What do you do? Would love to engage with you in some meaningful blog-versations in the comment below.
Stay Curious & Have a peaceful day!!
PS: The picture was of a Sunset in beautiful Santa Monica Pier in California!:) Sometimes people see the same image and perceive it differently.