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I was inspired to write this post after listening to a Ted Talk by Shonda Rhimes. If you don’t know, she is the writer/mastermind behind at least 4 hit American TV shows. I recommend you listen to it at least once. This post is me
thinking writing my thoughts out loud and sharing it with you.
What I wanted to write about today is how often you say – Yes or No. I wanted all of us to consciously think about what we say more often.
What do you do you a daily basis with people and their requests?
Do you usually say Yes? If you do, do you say yes because you want to do something? Or do you do it to make other people happy?
On the reverse side of things, do you usually say No to things? If so, why do you say no? Is it because you don’t want to do something? Or is it your general first response to anything?
I feel saying yes, opens doors to things you otherwise wouldn’t have experienced. That said, I don’t mean saying yes to every single request or invitation you get from people. For me, I say yes when I genuinely want to do something. But a couple of times, I have said maybe, when I really know it is a ‘No’, but I feel it is just too harsh to just say No directly. I now think I shouldn’t be saying Maybe when I really mean ‘No’. Anyone else on the same boat?
Other times, I say No. And most of the times, I just say, No, sorry! Then, I get thinking, why am I apologizing for saying ‘No’ to something I don’t wanna do or fits in my schedule? I am learning more to say, No, I am not able to do that, un-apologetically, without finding or giving reasons and without feeling guilty.
So, why do we feel guilty about saying ‘No’ to not doing something? We say ‘No’, then we feel guilty about it, when we know we are already stretching ourselves too thin by the things we already have to do? Even if we are not too busy and we can’t do something, why can’t we just say “No, I am not able to do that” without apologizing or giving any specific reasons as to why.
If you say ‘No’ to things very often, why do you think you say that?
Do you think saying yes will open new doors to experiences you wouldn’t otherwise have experienced?
Do you usually find yourself saying No and then apologize for it? Or give people reasons for why you can’t do something? Why do you feel the need to apologize or provide reasons?
Do you find yourself saying Yes to everyone at your own expense or to please people?
This is a very open ended posts where I want to encourage readers to think about, Yes or No without feeling feeling. If you can’t, why not?
Let’s discuss in the comments below.
Stay curious & Have a Peaceful Day!
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