Rescheduled post: Originally published on April 12th, 2018.
I have been thinking about writing this post for a while and today is the day! A warm welcome to the new bloggers on my site!:) Ok, back to the topic of this post: there are regular training sessions offered to employees in the company that I work for. There are some people, you may know them, have their way with people. They have people skills! Some people came to mind?
There was this training called ‘Insights’ that I had at work with a group of professionals that I find has helped me work effectively with others. I would like to share it with you, maybe it will help you resolve communication issues, or a barrier, or even delegate some tasks? This is mostly for a professional work environment but I am sure this is a transferable skill in any area of your life.
Most people want to be helpful, they want to learn and they want to do better. Note, I said ‘most’ people not all….some people popped up in your head?! Yah, there will always be those that are negative and don’t want to help or learn. BUT, we will focus on the people that are helpful, want to learn and do better and that includes you (I will assume). I talked about Setbacks – How to overcome it in 3 simple steps? in my previous post, which you may find helpful as well.
There are all kinds of communication styles people prefer. You know how sometimes you can get frustrated with people, for example, you have no idea why they are giving you so many details and this huge background story when all you wanted was a simple answer of yes or no? Also, there are some people who prefer to talk about their kids, family, dogs and the weekend before they get to the topic you are trying to discuss? You may fall into any of these categories and this may be your style or not.
My point? : Use the communication style the other person prefers when working with them rather your own communication style. The meeting/conversation will be more effective and you will get more done! It will make more sense when you read on, I promise!:)
Now, let’s Pick A Color, shall we? Following are the four colors that I learnt about. I will give you a very brief summary. It was an all day training, but I am hoping this will give you a gist of it.
1. RED: Be bright, Be brief, Be gone
People in this category mostly just want quick, to the point conversations/answers. They want quick answers and won’t care for the long elaborate details on how you got to the conclusion. Just give them direct answers and don’t linger around. In general, be brief and they will love working with you.
2. BLUE: Give me details
People in this category want details! They want to know how to got to this conclusion. They want to know where the data came from and how you came to that decision, result. They want to know the process. Give them all the details and data and they will enjoy working with you.
3. GREEN: Show me you care
People in this category want to know that you care about them. Ask them about their day, their weekend, their family, their pet. Start off the conversation there and be genuinely interested. This will show them that you care and they will be great to work/communicate with.
4. YELLOW: Involve me
People in this category love to be involved. They like to be a part of something. Share some projects you are working on, share some exciting news about yourself, introduce them to some people they may not know. They love being a part of something and feeling involved. This will show them that you are helping them feel like a part of something and it will be easy to work/communicate with them.
Wouldn’t you enjoy it if people knew your communication style and used that? You would appreciate them more and want to help them more for really knowing and understanding you right? Now, put yourself in other person’s shoes. See what I mean?
Now, I have 3 simple questions for you and I would love to know the answers in the comment below:
- What is your primary color?
- Pick 3 people you interact with daily, what color do you think they are?
- How would you organize the colors by your personality? For example: Red, Yellow, Blue, Green
I have been using this skill everyday and find that it works to: 1. develop better relationships with people around you and 2. gets things done efficiently and effectively.
What is YOUR color? Enter in the comments! 🙂
Stay Curious & Have a peaceful day!